It was before 7:30 p.m. on September 22,... forty-five years ago tonight.
Our beloved family doctor, Dr. Homer Howard, M.D., in Winona, MS, told my mother that he wanted to watch a football game on television, and that she had better get busy and have that baby!
It was Ole Miss vs. someone. (Ole Miss is the University of Mississippi.) Dr. Howard was probably only partly teasing. He was quite focused about his football!
At any rate, Mama took Dr. Howard seriously, and popped me out in time for him to get home to cheer for his alma mater (or so I am told). I hope Ole Miss won that night.
From the family slides and photos Gordon continues to digitize and re-master (clean up scratches and restore color), it appears I was a bit of a camera ham!
See that stack of books on the table behind my mother and me in the first photo? That was 1964; I was two.
I've never outgrown that love of reading! Thanks, Mama and Daddy, for spending countless hours reading to me as a child.
My love of dogs and other pets began early too. This mechanical dog was a Christmas present in 1964. That is about the same look that bursts forth on my face with each new pet that blesses my life, even now.
March, 1966 (age 4), I was the cover girl for Volume 30, Issue No. 1 of the Mississippi Library News.
From that same photo shoot, a billboard was created that popped up all around Mississippi in 1966. As I understand it, local businesses around the state sponsored the billboard encouraging children to read.
Wow, I'm 45 years old tonight! How did that happen so fast?
My mother was 40 when she gave birth to me... an only child. She and Daddy waited four years for me. They had just about given up hope.
Now, after almost four years of marriage for Gordon and me, I struggle at times with the steel thud of realization that we won't have a child of our own.
That was just not a scenario that I ever thought would play out for me. I always thought I would have a child late in life like my mother.
I never thought I would personally understand the deep ache of an empty womb and empty arms and an empty corner of my heart... or the sense of failing as a woman in an area God designed just for women.
For whatever reason, God has chosen that Gordon and I should expend our energies elsewhere.
Our life is full and happy... and overflowing with responsibility. We nurture my 85 year old mother and 81 year old uncle, both of whom live on the farm with us.
Our arms are full of rescued dogs and one rescued cat, all of whom absorb all the love we have to give them. They return that love many fold.
It is still not the same as giving birth to a baby who came from the love that Gordon and I share... and seeing on Gordon's face the same look that is on Daddy's face in this picture as he held me, age two.
We have a choice in how we respond to the vagaries of life. I have to choose (sometimes many times a day) to see my vase half full, not half empty.
God has a reason for allowing us to remain childless. Whatever He has ahead for Gordon and me will fill us completely.
But sometimes, at some significant milestone of our journey, I have to stop and allow myself time to cry. No regrets. Not even what if's. Just a woman's need for cleansing tears from time to time.